Mrs.(American English)[1]orMrs(British English;[2][3]standard English pronunciation:/ˈmɪsɪz/MISS-iz) is a commonly usedEnglish honorificforwomen,usually for those who are married and who do not instead use another title or rank, such asDoctor,Professor,President,Dame,etc. In mostCommonwealthcountries, a full stop (period) is usually not used with the title. In theUnited StatesandCanadaa period (full stop) is usually used (seeAbbreviation).[4]

Mrs.originated as acontractionof the honorificMistress(the feminine ofMisterorMaster) which was originally applied to both married and unmarried women in the upper class. Writers who usedMrsfor unmarried women includeDaniel Defoe,Samuel Richardson,Henry Fielding,andSamuel Johnson.The split intoMrsfor married women andMissfor unmarried began during the 17th century,[5][6]but was not reliable until well into the 19th century.[7]

It is rare forMrs.to be written in a non-abbreviated form, and the unabbreviated word lacks a standard spelling. In literature it may appear asmissusormissisin dialogue. A variant in the works ofThomas Hardyand others is "Mis'ess", reflecting itsetymology.Misseshas been used but is ambiguous, as this is a commonly used plural forMiss.The plural ofMrs.is from theFrench:Mesdames.This may be used as is in written correspondence, or it may be abbreviatedMmes.

Traditional usage

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Originally, Mrs was used with a woman's own first name and married surname.Abigail Adams,for example, was addressed as Mrs. Abigail Adams.[8]In the 19th century, it became common to use the husband's first name instead of the wife's.Jane Austengave some of the earliest examples of that form when she wrote of Mrs. John Dashwood.[7]By the early 20th century, that usage was standard, and the formsMrs Jane Smith,Mrs Miller(wife of John Smith), orMrs Miller-Smithwere considered incorrect by many etiquette writers.[9]Many feminists (such asElizabeth Cady Stanton,Lucy Stone,andCharlotte Perkins Gilman) objected, but they disagreed on whether the problem was the titleMrsor the husband's first name or the husband's surname.[10]

In several languages, the title for married women such asMadame,Señora,Signora,orFrau,is the direct feminine equivalent of the title used for men; the title for unmarried women is a diminutive:Mademoiselle,Señorita,Signorina,orFräulein.For this reason, usage had shifted toward using the married title as the default for all women in professional usage. This had long been followed in the United Kingdom for some high-ranking household staff, such as housekeepers, cooks, andnannies,who were calledMrs.as a mark of respect regardless of marital status.

In the United Kingdom, the traditional form for adivorcéewasMrs Jane Smith.[citation needed]In the U.S., the divorcée originally retained her full married name unless she remarried.[citation needed]Later,[citation needed]the formMrs. Miller Smithwas sometimes used, with thebirthsurname in place of the first name. However, the formMrs. Jane Millereventually became widely-used for divorcées, even in formal correspondence; that is,Mrs.preceded the divorcée's maiden name.

Before social mores relaxed to the point where single women with children were socially acceptable, the unwed mother was often advised byetiquettemavens likeEmily Postto useMrs.with her maiden name to avoid scrutiny.

The separation ofMissandMrs.became problematic as more women entered thewhite-collarworkforce because it was difficult to change names and titles when they had already established a career. Women who became famous or well known in their professional circles before marriage often kept their birth names, stage names, or pen names.Missbecame the appellation for celebrities (e.g., MissHelen Hayes,or MissAmelia Earhart) but this also proved problematic, as when a married womandiduse her husband’s last name but was still referred to asMiss;see more atMs.andMiss.

Modern usage

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It is now very uncommon for a woman to be addressed by her husband's first name; however, this still sometimes occurs if a couple is being addressed jointly, such as inMr. and Mrs. John Smith.

Many married women still use the title with their spouse's last name but retaining their first name (e.g.,Mrs Jane Smith). Other married women choose not to adopt their spouse's last name at all. It is generally considered polite to address a woman byMs.rather thanMrs.,unless the preference of the woman in question is clearly-known. This is especially true in written communication, as dictated by professional etiquette.[11]

Modernetiquetteprovides various options in addressing married couples in which the wife uses her own last name, or uses a title such asDr.,Mayor,orMs..Etiquette-writerJudith Martin( "Miss Manners" ) generally advises that, in non-standard situations, the individuals be addressed on separate lines when writing invitations (e.g., "Dr. Sue Martin/Mr. John Martin" ).

In direct address, a woman with the titleMrs.may be addressedMrs. [Lastname],or with the stand-aloneMadamorMa'am,although the latter two are more-often used for any adult woman, regardless of marital status, in modern conversation. It is normally considered correct to address a woman asMs. [Lastname],regardless of her marital status.

See also

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References

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  1. ^"Definition of Mrs".Merriam-Webster.Archivedfrom the original on 2021-10-25.Retrieved2021-10-25.
  2. ^"Mrs".Cambridge Dictionary.Archivedfrom the original on 2022-03-22.Retrieved2021-10-25.
  3. ^"Mrs abbreviation".Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary.Retrieved2021-10-25.
  4. ^"Abbreviations: Capital Letters and Abbreviations".www.sussex.ac.uk.Archivedfrom the original on 12 March 2018.Retrieved26 February2018.
  5. ^Spender, Dale.Man-Made Language.
  6. ^Stannard, Una.Mrs Man.
  7. ^abErickson, A.L. (2 Sep 2014)."Mistresses and Marriage: Or, a Short History of the Mrs"(PDF).History Workshop Journal.78(1): 39–57.Archived(PDF)from the original on 15 March 2023.Retrieved11 March2023.
  8. ^Letter from John Adams to Abigail AdamsArchived2023-03-26 at theWayback Machine,9 July 1774, digitized by theMassachusetts Historical SocietyArchived2023-03-11 at theWayback Machine
  9. ^Post, Emily.Etiquette.1922.
  10. ^"A Wife by Any Other Naming Convention".Her Half of History.9 March 2023.Archivedfrom the original on 11 March 2023.Retrieved11 March2023.
  11. ^"Guide to Addressing Correspondence".The Emily Post Institute, Inc.Archivedfrom the original on 2016-07-03.Retrieved2017-03-14.
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