Daddy (slang)
ADaddyingay cultureis aslangterm meaning a man sexually involved in a relationship with a younger male.[1][2][3]
In aninternet memecontext,Know Your Memedefines the term as a "slang term of affection used to address a male authority figure or idol in a sexualized manner."[4]
InBDSM,a "daddy/boy" relationship can share similarities with a dynamic ofdominance and submission.[5]
History[edit]
New Yorkclaimed in 2017 that the specific archetype evolved fromleather subculture,which began in the 1940s.[6]
The "leather daddy" archetype, which hassadomasochisticassociations, was proliferated in such media as theDrummermagazine (launched in 1975); 1976 to 1979 gay pornographic filmsWorking Man Trilogy;and BDSM novels byLarry Townsend.[7][6]
Predecessors[edit]
According to theHistorical Dictionary of American Slang,the earliest use of "daddy" in a non-paternal context was in 1681, in reference to whatsex workerscalled theirprocurersor older male customers.[8][9]
Throughout the 1920s, the term was used inblues musicandAfrican-American Vernacular Englishto mean one's boyfriend, especially an older man or asugar daddy.In 1920, the term is used in a romantic context inAileen Stanley's blues song "I Wonder Where My Sweet, Sweet Daddy's Gone."[10]Its usage is similar inLavinia Turner's 1922 song "How Can I Be Your 'Sweet Mama' When You're 'Daddy' to Someone Else?"[8][11]The same year, the term appears inTrixie Smith's "My Man Rocks Me" in the lyrics "My man rocks me, with one steady roll [...] I said now, Daddy, ain’t we got fun".[12][9]
In gay culture[edit]
New Yorkclaimed in 2017 that the gay term evolved fromleather subculture,which began in the 1940s.[6]
In the 1970s, the "leather daddy" archetype (which hassadomasochisticassociations) was proliferated in such media as theDrummermagazine (launched in 1975); 1976 to 1979 gay pornographic filmsWorking Man Trilogy;andBDSMnovels byLarry Townsend.[7][6]
Braidon Schaufert has claimed that the term was further normalized through to Game Grumps' 2017visual novelgame,Dream Daddy: A Dad Dating Simulator,which centered "queer fathers in a romance game" and gained a significant online fandom.[13]
The term has increasingly been applied toheterosexualrelationships.[citation needed]
Gender[edit]
In 2000, Andrew Schopp claimed that the Daddy archetype "challenge[s] dominant ideologies of masculinity by appropriating the icons of masculinity and male authority (jocks, leather, motorcycles, uniforms) and transporting them into the realm of gay male sexual experience."[14]
In 2018, Braidon Schaufert claimed that, by creating the 'daddy' term, "Queer communities have separated the specificgender performanceof fatherhood from the actual act of raising children ".[13]
In the context ofT4Trelationships (specifically,trans mendating trans men), a Daddy/boy dynamic can be part of thegender affirmationprocess, thereby leading togender euphoria.In 2022,Transgender Studies Quarterlyclaimed that a Daddy/boy dynamic between trans people "can be read as gender labor; affective and intersubjective work that produces gender".[15][16]
See also[edit]
- Sugar dating,a transactional relationship, which may involve use of the term "sugar daddy"
References[edit]
- ^Kirkland, Justin (2018-06-15)."Here's an Outrageously Comprehensive Guide to the Term 'Daddy'".Esquire.Retrieved2023-12-10.
- ^Mahale, Aniruddha (2018-01-07)."The Guysexual's Urban Dictionary for Gay Slang".Firstpost.Archived fromthe originalon 2021-05-16.
- ^Borge, Jonathan (2017-10-23)."Why People Are Calling Hot Guys Daddy".InStyle.Retrieved2023-12-10.
- ^"Daddy".Know Your Meme.2016-08-22.Retrieved2024-01-14.
- ^Weinberg, Thomas S. (1995).S and M: Studies in dominance and submission.Prometheus Books.ISBN0-87975-978-X.OCLC478487523.
- ^abcdAlbo, Mike (2013-06-14)."Rise of the 'Daddies': A New (and Sexy) Gay Niche".The Cut.Retrieved2024-01-14.
- ^ab"Larry Townsend Books List".Ranker.Retrieved2024-01-14.
- ^abFarhi, Paul (January 4, 2005)."Conception of a Question: Who's Your Daddy?".Washington Post.
- ^abKaren."The Deal with Daddy".Acelinguist.Retrieved2024-01-14.
- ^""I Wonder Where My Sweet Sweet Daddy's Gone" Aileen Stanley (1920) T. A. Hammed & Ray H. Stark ".Retrieved2024-01-14– viaYouTube.
- ^"How Can I Be Your" Sweet Mama "When You Are" Daddy "to Somebody Else? - Lavinia Turner".Retrieved2024-01-14– viaYouTube.
- ^"My Man Rocks Me (With One Steady Roll) - Trixie Smith and the Jazz Masters_(Released October 1922)".Retrieved2024-01-14– viaYouTube.
- ^abSchaufert, Braidon (December 2018)."Daddy's Play: Subversion and Normativity in Dream Daddy's Queer World".Game Studies.18(3).ISSN1604-7982.
- ^Schopp, A. (2000). (De)Constructing Daddy: The absent father, revisionist masculinity and/in queer cultural representations.disClosure: A Journal of Social Theory,9(3), 15-39.
- ^Cassius Adair; Aren Aizura (February 1, 2022).""The Transgender Craze Seducing Our [Sons]"; or, All the Trans Guys Are Just Dating Each Other ".Transgender Studies Quarterly.
- ^Cameron Awkward-Rich; Hil Malatino (February 1, 2022)."Meanwhile, t4t".Transgender Studies Quarterly.