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Small Fry by Lisa Brennan-Jobs
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Guys, you don't have to read this book. Utter crap. This book is only relevant for people obsessed with Apple and Steve Jobs like he's some kind of genius or a god. Lisa is a very minor story in his life and this novel reads as such. I mean no wants to read about ordinary things done by ordinary people like a journal entry sans critical reflection. Like, my mother bought a car, we called Steve to pay the bill. I mean, just no. There's a lot of sentences like this, we called him up to ask for rent, we called him up to get his sofa....come on! Read the last two chapters or so and that's enough. I'll even make it easy for you - here's the Vanity Fair link of a chapter:https://www.vanityfair.com/news/2018/....You're welcome.

Yes, this was a very cleaned up memoir of Steve Jobs (I say this kindly because you are reading this because of him and NOT Lisa a really minor player in the Apple world!), too clean when in fact, he was an abusive asshole to her as a child up until his death. It was unclear to me what she wanted, to be loved by an abusive person, or to resolve to get away from obviously a hot-cold parent. Come on girl, stand up! Steve didn't even pay a lot of her tuition fee in Harvard (she got in because she dropped the name OMFG). Lisa was taken in by kind neighbors who put her through school and housed her for several years and she didn't even invite them to her graduation because Steve was invited. What?! Who are these people?

As you can see, the money and the Jobs name is obviously the path to wealth and fame, and I wouldn't mind if she chose that. She should cry it out over the rooftops. I just wanted her to be honest upfront. Not sanitize it. I want to hear if she grappled with it. But no. Not a peep. It is like the narrator is an outsider looking in and it reads as such. We moved here, my mom painted in a school...

If a parent never really loved you and is psychologically abusive( "come to the circus with us or else, you can just pack up and leave the house..." ) why stick to him (aside from the money)? Why append a last name that doesn't mean anything except being unloved? I really would not begrudge her for doing so, in fact, I would respect her for that, after all, she is entitled to it as his kid. She should fight for it. But you don't read that. I actually wish she got a portion of his estate as the ultimate third finger but NO this is not that kind of factual story. No figures or anything, completely rambling journal accounts. This clean account sounds like a dishonest shill.

If you want to find a resolution that he may not be a crappy human being to absolve you of his meanness in life, sure, you might find it in the pages. The only good part was the conversation with Jobs at his deathbed. Even then, the stepmom goes to say, I don't believe in deathbed ramblings. What?! Who are these crappy human beings and why is she STILL around them? What I wanted to hear and read is if she has really moved on out of the clutches of his meanness, etc. You don't read that. Why? So where's the closure here. Jeez, appending his name to hers. Is that it?

If you want a dramatic memoir with all the angst and resolution, just read Cheryl Strayed's Wild, by god, that's some M*F*ng writing and a stupendous life redemption.

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October 2, 2018 – Shelved
October 2, 2018 – Shelved as: to-read

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Samantha I definitely fell in the minority in this book. I struggled to finish and just didn't get the hype over all the five star reviews.


message 2: by Melanie (last edited Oct 07, 2018 05:07AM) (new) - rated it1star

Melanie Hi Samantha, I almost felt like the only person in the planet that put out this 1star review. Thanks to you, I feel sane. I spent less than an hour in total (more like browsing). Like you, I struggled to even get past 3 chapters (I tried because I was curious). However, there was no redemption to it. I skipped to the end to see if there was any good thing. Almost dramatically good. As I was writing my review, I looked at the others here and was SHOCKED! Why all the 4-5 stars?? Were we reading the same book?! This was an unnecessary memoir and a product of PR and a good family name. I hope she got paid a lot and shared it with her poor mum!


message 3: by Jenna (new) - rated it2stars

Jenna ❤ ❀  ❤ I'm reading this now and agree with your review. It seems to me she just wants pity and her life doesn't sound all that bad growing up anyway, not like you read in many other memoirs. I'm finding it very annoying and petty, and as though she just wants pity and to brag that he's her father. Very weird memoir.


Melanie Hi Jenna, I don't know why it is even a memoir. Everyone is entitled to write one about their own lives but this was totally unnecessary (I'm thinking about the amount of PR and money put into this instead of towards other better memoirs and writers). That's my frustration, what does she want from us as her audience (pity?) or more importantly from her father or the stepfamily? That remains unclear to me even at the end (money, love, acceptance...what is it really?) She did get an Ivy education from him although it wasn't clear if she received money - but you are right, apart from poverty, she did receive some advantages. It doesn't satisfy any redemptive closure for the reader. Thanks for sharing your view!


message 5: by Justine (new)

Justine She was a little girl who wanted her father to love her and never stopped wanting that. All daughters are that way. I’m 32 and have my own life but I still care deeply what my dad thinks and I would feel that way if he was a deadbeat or a millionaire or both. She isn’t asking for pity, she’s asking for empathy which costs nothing and yet is the most valuable resource on the planet.


message 6: by Kyle (new) - rated it5stars

Kyle Woodside Oh look... an Apple cultist on a review bombing brigade.


Melanie Hi Justine, I get the call for empathy. It must be her writing style but this memoir lacks her critical reflection of her relationship with her father. It seems like she's still trapped in a period wherein she is still begging for love from Steve, inspite of his abuse to her emotionally. For that, this account is too early to be called a memoir, her saga feels unfinished.


message 8: by Melanie (last edited Aug 05, 2021 03:45PM) (new) - rated it1star

Melanie Hi Kyle, apple cultist? Strange observation. I just called out Steve Jobs as an abusive parent. At the same time I called out the daughter for not explicitly pointing out his parental abuse. It's unclear why she doesn't despite all her stories of consistent downright bad behaviour and dismissiveness towards her and her mother. Too early to write a memoir when the abuse has not been fully processed.

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I might have mis-responded and Kyle might be referring to Justine rather than me. Apologies if that is the case!


Melanie (reposting the deletion) Disclosure, I've never been an Apple user - not an iPod, Mac or iPhone (any version). Sure, I've lusted after the purple iMac of the 1999-2000. But never bought one (with a tinge of regret). However I've always been a Windows user, including at the height of the pre Bill Gates philanthropy whitewashing we see today.


message 10: by Andi (new) - rated it5stars

Andi W I feel like some of these reviewers were way too focused on who her Dad was rather than her story, pretend her Dad was someone you've never heard of before. It's the story of a young girl dealing with very difficult parents and trying to find love and happiness, totally relatable. It wasn't hand washing the dishes that was the problem, it was that her washing the dishes and babysitting was the primary value to the family, when you have unconditional love and acceptance washing dishes and babysitting are totally different. I think some of you were distracted by the game and wealth of her father and missed the point entirely.


message 11: by Melanie (new) - rated it1star

Melanie Hi Andi, we can't pretend to erase that the author's name is Brennan, appellation Jobs. Emphasize on appellation Jobs. She chose to print that. We can't forget that the majority of readers picked this up because of the fame of her father and apple's success. This is a memoir of her relationship with Steve Jobs, the absentee father. That was the attraction. If she wanted the reader to focus on her alone, she would have published this under her mother's name Brennan and see if people will pick this up. We of course will never know if this book would have reached for the charts without the name. That's why famous people use a pseudonym.

Trying to find happiness and love from abusive parent figures is definitely totally relatable and a theme for a lot more books. My point is that a good memoir focuses on a critical self reflection of the events in one's life. And I didn't see that, no assessment of what she thought about her dad or her mom. It's written almost like a journal account. That's my beef. There's no insight to what she thought about her kind neighbors and why she dropped them, etc. I've seen better writers enunciate their coming to terms with their parents and themselves. This work is sanitized (feels like a lawyer stopped her from saying what she truly feels like). By putting this as a top rated book, my beef is that we missed out perhaps on other unknown writers of better caliber with better storytelling skills. If you loved this work, good for you. Not for me.


Tom N Monsanto You are just a hater. Grow up!


message 13: by Ryan (new) - added it

Ryan I haven’t seen someone say so much nothing in so many words in a while. Congrats Melanie!


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