Influence Quotes

“A well-known principle of human behavior says that when we ask someone to do us a favor we will be more successful if we provide a reason. People simply like to have reasons for what they do.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“Embarrassment is a villain to be crushed.”
― Robert Cialdini, Influence: Science and Practice

“we all fool ourselves from time to time in order to keep our thoughts and beliefs consistent with what we have already done or decided”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: Science and Practice

“The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“Often we don’t realize that our attitude toward something has been influenced by the number of times we have been exposed to it in the past.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“There is a natural human tendency to dislike a person who brings us unpleasant information, even when that person did not cause the bad news. The simple association with it is enough to stimulate our dislike.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“persons who go through a great deal of trouble or pain to attain something tend to value it more highly than persons who attain the same thing with a minimum of effort.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“people seem to be more motivated by the thought of losing something than by the thought of gaining something of equal value.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“The truly gifted negotiator, then, is one whose initial position is exaggerated enough to allow for a series of concessions that will yield a desirable final offer from the opponent, yet is not so outlandish as to be seen as illegitimate from the start.”
― Robert Cialdini, Influence

“Freedoms once granted will not be relinquished without a fight.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler. —ALBERT EINSTEIN”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“Since 95 percent of the people are imitators and only 5 percent initiators, people are persuaded more by the actions of others than by any proof we can offer.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“The idea of potential loss plays a large role in human decision making. In fact, people seem to be more motivated by the thought of losing something than by the thought of gaining something of equal value.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“Excuse me, I have five pages. May I use the Xerox machine because I have to make some copies? The result was that once again nearly all (93 percent) agreed, even though no real reason, no new information, was added to justify their compliance. Just as the “cheep-cheep” sound of turkey chicks triggered an automatic mothering response from maternal turkeys—even when it emanated from a stuffed polecat—so, too, did the word “because” trigger an automatic compliance response”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“It is easier to resist at the beginning than at the end. —LEONARDO DA VINCI”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“There is no expedient to which a man will not resort to avoid the real labor of thinking.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“All things being equal, you root for your own sex, your own culture, your own locality…and what you want to prove is that you are better than the other person. Whomever you root for represents you; and when he wins, you win.” 88”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“Be as precise as possible about your need for aid.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“Research has shown that we automatically assign to good-looking individuals such favorable traits as talent, kindness, honesty, and intelligence (for a review of this evidence, see Langlois et al., 2000).”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: Science and Practice

“First, we seem to assume that if a lot of people are doing the same thing, they must know something we don’t.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“In general, when we are unsure of ourselves, when the situation is unclear or ambiguous, when uncertainty reigns, we are most likely to look to and accept the actions of others as correct.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“When our freedom to have something is limited, the item becomes less available, and we experience an increased desire for it. However, we rarely recognize that psychological reactance has caused us to want the item more; all we know is that we want it. Still, we need to make sense of our desire for the item, so we begin to assign it positive qualities to justify the desire.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“good-looking people are aware that other people’s positive evaluations of them are not based on their actual traits and abilities but are often caused by an attractiveness “halo”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: Science and Practice

“Apparently we have such an automatically positive reaction to compliments that we can fall victim to someone who uses them in an obvious attempt to win our favor.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“Our best evidence of what people truly feel and believe comes less from their words than from their deeds.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“our typical reaction to scarcity hinders our ability to think.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“We like people who are similar to us. This fact seems to hold true whether the similarity is in the area of opinions, personality traits, background, or life-style.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“The customers, mostly well-to-do vacationers with little knowledge of turquoise, were using a standard principle—a stereotype—to guide their buying: “expensive = good.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“The truly gifted negotiator, then, is one whose initial position is exaggerated enough to allow for a series of reciprocal concessions that will yield a desirable final offer from the opponent, yet is not so outlandish as to be seen as illegitimate from the start.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

“civilization advances by extending the number of operations we can perform without thinking about them.”
― Robert B. Cialdini, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion