Victimization Quotes

“See if you can catch yourself complaining, in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.”
― Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

“The guarantee of safety in a battering relationship can never be based upon a promise from the perpetrator, no matter how heartfelt. Rather, it must be based upon the self-protective capability of the victim. Until the victim has developed a detailed and realistic contingency plan and has demonstrated her ability to carry it out, she remains in danger of repeated abuse.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

“I believed I was too sensitive and weak. To “prove” I wasn’t a victim anymore, I moved closer to painful experiences rather than away from them. Remaining in harm’s way and exposing myself to more pain kept me in the victim role rather than moving me out of it.”
― Christina Enevoldsen

“I decry the injustice of my wounds, only to look down and see that I am holding a smoking gun in one hand and a fistful of ammunition in the other.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“Isolating oneself into a narrowly defined victim group promotes a view of others as irrelevant at best and dangerous at worst, which eventually only leads to further alienation. Gangs, extremist political parties, and religious cults may provide solace, but they rarely foster the mental flexibility needed to be fully open to what life has to offer and as such cannot liberate their members from their traumas. Well-functioning people are able to accept individual differences and acknowledge the humanity of others.”
― Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

“[Pope] Clement waved his hands in irritation as if to dismiss the very idea. "The world is crumbling into ruin. Armies are marching. Men and women are dying everywhere, in huge numbers. Fields are abandoned and towns deserted. The wrath of the Lord is upon us and He may be intending to destroy the whole of creation. People are without leaders and direction. They want to be given a reason for this, so they can be reassured, so they will return to their prayers and their obiediences. All this is going on, and you are concerned about the safety of two Jews?”
― Iain Pears, The Dream of Scipio

“If you cannot read Shakespeare, or Melville, or Toni Morrison because it will trigger something traumatic in you, and you'll be harmed by the read of the text because you are still defining yourself through your self-victimization, then you need to see a doctor.”
― Bret Easton Ellis

“Real humility is graceful power, not a mandate to be victimized and abused.”
― Bryant McGill, Simple Reminders: Inspiration for Living Your Best Life

“We have probably all seen teachers who would pick a student up by the scruff of the neck for saying ‘Shit,’ but who would walk by without a word when overhearing that same student taunting a classmate, calling him a ‘fag.’ It is often easier not to intervene — even when there is a clear-cut victim. It’s out in the hall. It isn’t our business. It isn’t our problem.

But our inactions, like our actions, define who we are and what are true values are.”
― Richard H. Eyster

“Perhaps you are no rock climber, but faced with a big enough rock, you will have to become one.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“Justice is a fickle mistress, alluring but elusive, ever delivering less than she promises.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“Spend your life chasing justice and only one thing is certain: You will have spent your life.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“A particular lethal combo is when culture of victimization -we were wronged last week, last decade, last millennium- is coupled with a culture of honor's ethos of retribution.”
― Robert M. Sapolsky, Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst

“Under a man's hands--crush of his body--exigent breath--I remembered how to perform. Yes when I meant no. Lust or satisfaction or pleasure. Gratitude, as required, knowing that, naked beneath a man's disappointment, there lay this possibility of violence, as pungent and close-fitting as skin. One pound of flesh, paid freely, was preferable to a bloodier extraction. My past roles of sex kitten and hard bitch, blushing penitent, coy exotic, tease: I'd learned, long before this day, that I could play anything to avoid the role of victim.”
― C Pam Zhang, Land of Milk and Honey

“Never indulge your victimization by labeling yourself a victim, regardless of how much you deserve the title.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“When you label yourself a victim, you compel those around you to pay homage to your victimhood. Don’t do that.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“The only one who can give final assent to your victimhood is you.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“To merely survive victimization is to let it consume you still, only bite by bite rather than all at once, to let it loiter in your life and chew at you forever. The only way to truly overcome victimization is to transcend it.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“Only once you can truthfully say you are grateful for your victimization have you transcended it.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“There are many injustices that will simply never be made right, and to expect otherwise is to set yourself up to be consumed by frustration.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“To expect a hospitable world is hubris. Instead, expect the opposite. Expect a world that may destroy you at its whim at any moment.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“Neither lion nor gazelle question whether it is just for the lion to catch and eat the gazelle or just for the gazelle to get away and let the lion starve.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“Justice is the delusion of the self-entitled. To desire it is to desire a world that is not this world.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“Whatever your world is, you are alive, and an incomprehensible number of things had to happen just the way they did for that to be the case.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“You may be appalled by your world, but you must be gratefully appalled.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“Your life has come at the expense of a nearly infinite number of other potential lives that will now never get to be lived because you get to live.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“Categorizing yourself by either your victimization or your privilege fails to give any clarity to life’s fundamental question: What are you going to do with it?”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“Wallowing in victimhood only demeans and paralyzes you. Don’t do it. Redeem it instead. Transcend it instead.”
― Shawn Davis, The Talk: A Young Person's Guide to Life's Big Questions

“The world now realizes the true face of India, which I have been saying for years under the victimization of Indo-Pak intelligence agencies. I salute Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau and the institutions that took fair and proper action against India for minorities.
I wish I were a Canadian citizen instead of a Dutch, where I have been facing victimization by Dutch officials since 1980.”
― Ehsan Sehgal

“I was harmless; I am still harmless. That's why I survived victimization.”
― Ehsan Sehgal