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The Secret Life of Prince Charming The Secret Life of Prince Charming by Deb Caletti
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“It starts so young, and I'm angry about that. The garbage we're taught. About love, about what's "romantic." Look at so many of the so-called romantic figures in books and movies. Do we ever stop and think how many of them would cause serious and drastic unhappiness after The End? Why are sick and dangerous personality types so often shown a passionate and tragic and something to be longed for when those are the very ones you should run for your life from? Think about it. Heathcliff. Romeo. Don Juan. Jay Gatsby. Rochester. Mr. Darcy. From the rigid control freak in The Sound of Music to all the bad boys some woman goes running to the airport to catch in the last minute of every romantic comedy. She should let him leave. Your time is so valuable, and look at these guys--depressive and moody and violent and immature and self-centered. And what about the big daddy of them all, Prince Charming? What was his secret life? We dont know anything about him, other then he looks good and comes to the rescue.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“I used to think that finding the right one was about the man having a list of certain qualities. If he has them, we'd be compatible and happy. Sort of a checkmark system that was a complete failure. But I found out that a healthy relationship isn't so much about sense of humor or intelligence or attractive. It's about avoiding partners with harmful traits and personality types. And then it's about being with a good person. A good person on his own, and a good person with you. Where the space between you feels uncomplicated and happy. A good relationship is where things just work. They work because, whatever the list of qualities, whatever the reason, you happen to be really, really good together.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“Rejection, though--it could make the loss of someone you weren't even that crazy about feel gut wrenching and world ending.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“This is what I know. Don't settle for 40, 50, or even 80 percent. A relationship-it shouldn't be too small or too tight or even a little scratchy. It shouldn't take up space in your closet out of guilty conscience or convenience or a moment of desire. Do you hear me? It shold be perfect for you. It should be lasting. Wait. wait for 100 percent.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“You've got to have someone who loves your body. Who doesn't define you, but sees you. Who loves what he sees. Who you don't have to struggle to be good enough for.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“We should not give away a moment to anyone who does not deserve it.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“If you look up "charming" in the dictionary, you'll see that it not only has references to strong attraction, but to spells and magic. Then again, what are liars if not great magicians?”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“Those questions you have? Whether he's the one, whether you feel about him the way you should, or whether the relationship is going okay? When you're not sure whether you're in love with someone or not, the answer is not.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“And pity--people who inspire it in you are actually very powerful people. To get someone else to take care of you, to feel sorry for you--that takes a lot of strength, smarts, manipulation. Very powerful people.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“When what you want is a relationship, and not a person, get a dog.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“People are secretive when they have secrets.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“Let me tell you, you either have chemistry or you don't, and you better have it, or it's like kissing some relative. But chemistry, listen to me, you got to be careful. Chemistry is like those perfume ads, the ones that look so interesting and mysterious but you dont even know at first what they're even selling. Or those menues without the prices. Mystery and intrigue are gonna cost you. Great looking might mean something ve-ry expensive, and I don't mean money. What I'm saying is, chemistry is a place to start, not an end point.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“It took me years to figure out that upset was upset, and tumultuousness was not the same thing as passion. Love isn't drama.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“Unconditional love is like a country of two with no laws and no government. Which is all fine if everyone is peaceful and law abiding. In the wrong hands, though, you got looting and crime sprees, and let me tell you, the people who demand unconditional love are usually the ones who will rob and pillage and then blame you because you left your door unlocked.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“The most basic and somehow forgettable thing is this: Love is not pain. Love is goodness. And real love--it's less shiny than solid and simple.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“Sometimes you think you've found love, when it's really just one of those objects that are shiny in a certain light--a trophy, say, or a ring, or a diamond, even. Glass shards, maybe. You've got to be careful, you do. The shine can blind you. The edges can cut you in way you never imagined. It is up to you to allow that or not.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“We look down our noses at people who've made mistakes in relationships. She's so stupid! How could she do that! Our superiority makes us feel better. But I’d bet everything I have on the fact that people to claim to have a perfect record in love are either lying or have very limited dating experience. People who say, I’d never do that! Someday, unless you are very, very lucky, you’ll have a story to tell. Or not to tell.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“I had always had a little problem looking out for myself in love. I was afraid people would leave me. So I sort of clung and did everything possible to keep someone around. I didn't have a hard talk with myself about who I was keeping around. Doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out. I clung to people like human life preservers. I thought i'd die if someone left me. Its ironic because now I'm the one who's leaving.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“Marriage is like a well-built porch. If one of the two posts leans too much, the porch collapses. So each must be strong enough to stand on its own.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“Sometimes good choices are really bad ones, wrapped up in so much fear you can't even see straight.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“Family was even a bigger word than I imagined, wide and without limitations, if you allowed it, defying easy definition. You had family that was supposed to be family and wasn't, family that wasn't family but was, halves becoming whole, wholes splitting into two; it was possible to lack whole, honest love and connection from family in lead roles, yet to be filled to abundance by the unexpected supporting players.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“Maybe I was being too picky. Maybe I didn't want to be close to anyone. Maybe I'd just be the type who couldn't feel love all the way or something. I couldn't tell what was wrong, but what was wrong was that it just wasn't right.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“I finally learned that it was all right to say something wasn’t working for me when it wasn’t working. The world doesn’t come crashing down when you speak the truth.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“It's shocking the things we call love.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“At the root of every large struggle in life is the need to be honest about something that we do not feel we can be honest about. We lie to ourselves or other people because the truth might require action on our part, and action requires courage. We say we “don’t know” what is wrong, when we do know what is wrong; we just wish we didn’t.

Art lets us tell the truth, but even art can be something to hide behind.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“Love is ease, love is comfort, love is support and respect. Love is not punishing or controlling. Love lets you grow and breathe. Love's passion is only good passion -- swirling-leaves-on-a-fall-day passion, a-sky-full-of-magnificent-stars passion -- not angst and anxiety. Love is not hurt and harm. Love is never unsafe. Love is sleeping like puzzle pieces. It's your own garden you protect; it's a field of wildflowers you move about in both freely and together.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“Sometimes you've got to make a mess before you clean it up.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“But what I wanted back had never really been there. He was a temporary illusion, a mirage of water after walking in the desert. I had made him up. And he could have killed me. You've got to stop the ride sometimes. Stop it and get off.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“So I put up with bad behavior in the name of loving the way I thought you were supposed to love.”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming
“Too often in my life, love has been defined as "humiliation with occasional roses".”
Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming

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